Tips for Men Dating Women

It was not until 3 years ago that I really began getting out in the field, I was introverted, sensitive and let girls walk all over me. I pedestaled one girl for almost a year while she went out and played the field, she ticked a lot of boxes for me and I felt the way to get her to like me was to constantly tell her how beautiful she was, bring her gifts and always be there as a shoulder to cry on. I was so blinded by my hearts desire that I could not see the whole picture, I began thinking it was a problem with me and that I would never be happy without this girl.

The problem was I was allowing her to have this complete control over me, I had to stand up straight like a man and go out and grab hold of happiness. I started thinking I will never be in that position where I allow myself to care for someone that much anymore until I am comfortable in life and know I have the right one. I began by showing my new found confidence and self-respect to every girl i met when out in my social circle, in return these girls and the previous girl also showed my respect in return, seeing me for exactly who I was.

But it doesn't stop at confidence because girls can use game just like men to gain what they want. Don't let all the hype about men being the cause of problems fool you, always be on your guard.

From what I can see, many women (but not all) have a checklist when they are scanning for an ideal partner, so bare these in mind at all times and you will be protecting yourself

• If you can support yourself financially(may seem obvious)
• Popularity - Do you have a social group who respect and are there for you?
• Are you happy in life and with your interests?
• Are you secure that you can pick up another girl if she rejects you?
• Do you have any prospects?

All of these will become more clear as you move around with you knew found confidence. You can begin with girls of mediocre attractiveness, after all, a persons looks is not everything, I have enjoyed being in relationships with girls because of their personality. I'm not trying to be a player here, I'm giving advice on being an alpha male. 50% of relationships end within the first 6 months due to couples deciding they don't gel as well as they thought they did anyway, so you have plenty of time to look for your dream girl. Your just looking for a girl to have fun with, learn about and see what boxes she ticks, these are a few examples:

• What interests do you share?
• Do you have similar views on world affairs?
• Does she complain about silly things like the scent of your hair gel?,
• Does she listen to you when your having a conversation or is she busy messing with her phone?

A good piece of advice i read is, when a girl asks you on the telephone 'what are you upto?' never reply 'nothing', she will lose respect for you and think you are a boring person. You need to show you are always working on your interests and self progression.

Many of you must of heard the expression, its easier to get a job when your already in one? it tickles me that I believe this is relevent in terms of girlfriends also. This is because girls can see when you are radiating with confidence, also if they have overheard you are with someone else they wonder 'what has he got that makes him desirable to other girls?'

If you are out and you walk up in the club thinking of your insecurities, girls can smell this from a mile away. If you can maintain eye contact this is a start, you may have insecurities but as long they can sense you are happy and confident in life this will maintain their interest. Girls also have many insecurities and don't wake up thinking 'I enjoy being alone' this is just a front some girls put on to appear strong.

Just think of how your good qualities outweight your negatives, for example:

If you have money and looks this helps, but if not, just concentrate on your wealth of friends and character, she knows this is a good quality about you, shes already worked this out. Women get men approaching them everyday so they have become experts at judging you.

If your doing quite well and your ready to move in for a snog, make excuses to touch her such as 'Gosh its cold walking along the bay' and move in to put your arm around her.

If you are able to get a number or are offered 'back for a coffee' your pretty much in! But don't dive in all sleazy groping and eating her face off on the first date, If she wants to take things further she'll get more intense, follow her lead. Personally I never have sex on a first date, if she tells you she wants a one nightstand thats for you to decide - but only if she says with words!

You want to try and work on this for your general well being, but also all girls will respect this.

A good phrase to remember is 'Godliness is Cleanliness'

In this world, image is everything, as shallow as it is, you just want to compete.

I personally have been trying to make a collection of trainers and shoes. You can never have enough because they are always getting scuffed and dont keep in good condition long. Shoes can enhance your whole appearance even if you are wearing a plain t-shirt and '£10 pants' Also try and wipe them over when you get chance, it can maintain that new look for longer. You can buy a plain pair of Adidas Classics for cheap and alternate the laces for variety.

I also like to buy those slip-on leather shoes for Topman or Peacocks but if you prefer Cat or Timberland boots are a stylish choice for a night out.

Physical appearance

If you can get your haircut every 4 weeks if you have short hair this will enahance your game, if not try and wear a styling gel or gum to look fresh as much as you can. If you have long hair try wearing those stylish hats to tie it back, I think those look pretty cool and it still allows you to keep your individuality.

Trim your nails and use a nail brush as much as you if you work a dirty job and trim body hair as often as you can whilst showering.

Refering to Films

I have found it is much easier to learn from seeing than reading. From this you can learn alot more in a shorter space of time, such as the appearance of successful men, their attitudes, their techniques and tricks.

Some funny quotations I remember from films:

You're like a big bear with claws and with fangs. ... And she's just like this little bunny, who's just kinda cowering in the corner - Swingers

You drink that drink! Alcohol has been a social lubricant for thousands of years. What do you think, you're going to sit here tonight and reinvent the wheel? - Rodger Dodger

If you have access to a computer, see if you can get hold of some of these films somehow:

Rodger Dodger (2002)

Swingers (1996)

Wedding Crashers (2005)

Magnolia(1999)

Tao of Steve (2000)

Im going to end the article on that note, I have just included general thoughts that circle my head, you will make your own conclusion and continue learning. I don't want this to sound as though i know everything, but from what i have learnt I believe I have been fairly successful.